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How to Attract Love Into your Life

In today’s society true love often seems like a myth! Many wonder…Is it possible to find love? I believe it is! With over 3 billion Google searches, the desire to experience love is real. So how can you find it? 

The truth is, we seem to have lost our ability to connect with people face to face. Many of us hide behind the screen, in fear of getting hurt or rejected. Our addiction to social media has created a false perception of reality. These images fill our mind with ideal relationships, making us feel more self conscious about our self. In addition, this obsession with viewing other people’s lives, portrayed in a perfect light, can actually be Hurting Our Own Love Life. With the average person spending up to 5.9 hours a day on technology, it’s becoming harder to make a real connection!

So how do you find your soul mate in today’s world? Is it on dating apps or going out often?  I believe it requires a somewhat different approach…

How To Attract Love Into your Life

In today’s society true love often seems like a myth! Many wonder…Is it possible to find love? I believe it is! With over 3 billion Google searches, the desire to experience love is real. So how can you find it? 

The truth is, we seem to have lost our ability to connect with people face to face. Many of us hide behind the screen, in fear of getting hurt or rejected. Our addiction to social media has created a false perception of reality. These images fill our mind with ideal relationships, making us feel more self conscious about our self. In addition, this obsession with viewing other people’s lives, portrayed in a perfect light, can actually be Hurting Our Own Love Life. With the average person spending up to 5.9 hours a day on technology, it’s becoming harder to make a real connection!

So how do you find your soul mate in today’s world? Is it on dating apps or going out often?  I believe it requires a somewhat different approach…

How To Attract Love Into your Life

In today’s society true love often seems like a myth! Many wonder…Is it possible to find love? I believe it is! With over 3 billion Google searches, the desire to experience love is real. So how can you find it? 

The truth is, we seem to have lost our ability to connect with people face to face. Many of us hide behind the screen, in fear of getting hurt or rejected. Our addiction to social media has created a false perception of reality. These images fill our mind with ideal relationships, making us feel more self conscious about our self. In addition, this obsession with viewing other people’s lives, portrayed in a perfect light, can actually be Hurting Our Own Love Life. With the average person spending up to 5.9 hours a day on technology, it’s becoming harder to make a real connection!

So how do you find your soul mate in today’s world? Is it on dating apps or going out often?  I believe it requires a somewhat different approach…

1. Learn to Spend Time with Yourself

There used to be a time when I needed to be constantly surrounded by people. The busier my schedule was, the better I felt! The problem was that I couldn’t be alone. The thought of being by myself made me sad. I became increasingly dependent on others to make me happy. This clingy behavior often caused problems in my relationships.

Why is this important to recognize when it comes to finding love? Often we meet an amazing person, but with our behavior we drive them away. Being comfortable with who we are, before entering a relationship, can play a huge role in keeping it.

It is when we spend time alone that we begin to discover our own unique gifts and talents. Know that it is ok to be by yourself! Self Confidence comes from knowing who we are as individuals, which is the key to enjoying a loving relationship.

Blond girl sitting on ground in flower nursery gazing

1. Learn to Spend Time with Yourself

There used to be a time when I needed to be constantly surrounded by people. The busier my schedule was, the better I felt! The problem was that I couldn’t be alone. The thought of being by myself made me sad. I became increasingly dependent on others to make me happy. This clingy behavior often caused problems in my relationships.

Why is this important to recognize when it comes to finding love? Often we meet an amazing person, but with our behavior we drive them away. Being comfortable with who we are, before entering a relationship, can play a huge role in keeping it.

It is when we spend time alone that we begin to discover our own unique gifts and talents. Know that it is ok to be by yourself!

Blond girl sitting on ground in flower nursery gazing

Self Confidence comes from knowing who we are as individuals, which is the key to enjoying a loving relationship.

1. Learn to Spend Time with Yourself

Blond girl sitting on ground in flower nursery gazing

There used to be a time when I needed to be constantly surrounded by people. The busier my schedule was, the better I felt! The problem was that I couldn’t be alone. The thought of being by myself made me sad. I became increasingly dependent on others to make me happy. This clingy behavior often caused problems in my relationships.

Why is this important to recognize when it comes to finding love? Often we meet an amazing person, but with our behavior we drive them away. Being comfortable with who we are, before entering a relationship, can play a huge role in keeping it.

It is when we spend time alone that we begin to discover our own unique gifts and talents. Know that it is ok to be by yourself! Self Confidence comes from knowing who we are as individuals, which is the key to enjoying a loving relationship.

2. Find Your Passion and Go for it!

Adult chefs in kitchen preparing sea food

When you find something you love to do, it fills you with joy beyond material possessions. Discovering your passion allows you to live a more fulfilling life. When I found my passion, I no longer needed others to make me happy! For the first time in my life, I felt like people were drawn to me. 

How does this tie in to finding love? It’s quite simple! When you are in a joyful state of mind, people are attracted to you. It is well known that we all want to be surrounded by happy people. Additionally, when you engage in activities that you are passionate about, you open yourself up to meeting new people.

2. Find Your Passion and Go for it!

Adult chefs in kitchen preparing sea food

When you find something you love to do, it fills you with joy beyond material possessions. Discovering your passion allows you to live a more fulfilling life. When I found my passion, I no longer needed others to make me happy! For the first time in my life, I felt like people were drawn to me. 

How does this tie in to finding love? It’s quite simple! When you are in a joyful state of mind, people are attracted to you. It is well known that we all want to be surrounded by happy people. Additionally, when you engage in activities that you are passionate about, you open yourself up to meeting new people.

2. Find Your Passion and Go for it!

Adult chefs in kitchen preparing sea food

When you find something you love to do, it fills you with joy beyond material possessions. Discovering your passion allows you to live a more fulfilling life. When I found my passion, I no longer needed others to make me happy! For the first time in my life, I felt like people were drawn to me. 

How does this tie in to finding love? It’s quite simple! When you are in a joyful state of mind, people are attracted to you. It is well known that we all want to be surrounded by happy people. Additionally, when you engage in activities that you are passionate about, you open yourself up to meeting new people.

3. Be Present!

If you look around on a busy street or during lunch rush hour, you will notice that most people have their eyes glued to their phone. Even those hanging out with friends seem to be more preoccupied with their technology. 

Today, more and more people are disconnected from those around them. It takes a conscious effort to break this cycle. So when you are out, be Present and in the Moment!

Having eye contact and engaging in conversations can make the difference between being noticed and making a connection. Sometimes it’s that spark in the eye or a warm smile that causes someone to notice us!

Young man sitting at coffee shop with sunglasses

3. Be Present!

If you look around on a busy street or during lunch rush hour, you will notice that most people have their eyes glued to their phone. Even those hanging out with friends seem to be more preoccupied with their technology. 

Today, more and more people are disconnected from those around them. It takes a conscious effort to break this cycle. So when you are out, be Present and in the Moment!

Young man sitting at coffee shop with sunglasses

Having eye contact and engaging in conversations can make the difference between being noticed and making a connection. Sometimes it’s that spark in the eye or a warm smile that causes someone to notice us!

3. Be Present!

Young man sitting at coffee shop with sunglasses

If you look around on a busy street or during lunch rush hour, you will notice that most people have their eyes glued to their phone. Even those hanging out with friends seem to be more preoccupied with their technology. 

Today, more and more people are disconnected from those around them. It takes a conscious effort to break this cycle. So when you are out, be Present and in the Moment!

Having eye contact and engaging in conversations can make the difference between being noticed and making a connection. Sometimes it’s that spark in the eye or a warm smile that causes someone to notice us!

4. Become Comfortable in Your Skin

Finding Love learning to love yourself in mirrorreflection in mirror

We all come in different sizes, shapes and skin tones. That’s what makes each one of us unique and special! Learning to practice self love and appreciate who we are is important in attracting love. In our society where the emphasis is on perfection, many of us are left feeling self-conscious. Subsequently, we project this feeling of insecurity when are out in the world.

One exercise that helped me boost my self-esteem was to write a list of all the qualities that I love and enjoy about myself. It could be anything from physical characteristics, personality traits or things that made me feel proud. Additionally, by reading this list each day, in front of the mirror, I drastically improved my self-confidence. Practicing self-love will allow you to feel more confident and attract love.

4. Become Comfortable in Your Skin

Finding Love learning to love yourself in mirrorreflection in mirror

We all come in different sizes, shapes and skin tones. That’s what makes each one of us unique and special! Learning to practice self love and appreciate who we are is important in attracting love. In our society where the emphasis is on perfection, many of us are left feeling self-conscious. Subsequently, we project this feeling of insecurity when are out in the world.

One exercise that helped me boost my self-esteem was to write a list of all the qualities that I love and enjoy about myself. It could be anything from physical characteristics, personality traits or things that made me feel proud. Additionally, by reading this list each day, in front of the mirror, I drastically improved my self-confidence. Practicing self-love will allow you to feel more confident and attract love.

4. Become Comfortable in Your Skin

Finding Love learning to love yourself in mirrorreflection in mirror

We all come in different sizes, shapes and skin tones. That’s what makes each one of us unique and special! Learning to practice self love and appreciate who we are is important in attracting love. In our society where the emphasis is on perfection, many of us are left feeling self-conscious. Subsequently, we project this feeling of insecurity when are out in the world.

One exercise that helped me boost my self-esteem was to write a list of all the qualities that I love and enjoy about myself. It could be anything from physical characteristics, personality traits or things that made me feel proud. Additionally, by reading this list each day, in front of the mirror, I drastically improved my self-confidence. Practicing self-love will allow you to feel more confident and attract love.

5. Create a List of Your Ideal Partner

Another great tool to attract love is to sit and think about what qualities and attributes you desire in your ideal person. List all the characteristics that you would love to see in him/her. When I created my list years ago, I tried not to dwell too much on specific details. I didn’t want to be closed off to meeting someone who did not fit my list exactly. Instead I focused on words such as mutual attraction, honest, kind, loyal and happy.

Spend some time to review this affirmation list each night before you go to bed. Additionally, allow yourself the opportunity to imagine what it would feel once the two of you met. Begin to meditate regularly to allow your subconscious mind to manifest this into reality!

Finding Love writing down your ideal mate

5. Create a List of Your Ideal Person

Another great tool to attract love is to sit and think about what qualities and attributes you desire in your ideal person. List all the characteristics that you would love to see in him/her. When I created my list years ago, I tried not to dwell too much on specific details. I didn’t want to be closed off to meeting someone who did not fit my list exactly. Instead I focused on words such as mutual attraction, honest, kind, loyal and happy.

Spend some time to review this affirmation list each night before you go to bed. Additionally, allow yourself the opportunity to imagine what it would feel once the two of you met. 

Finding Love writing down your ideal mate

Begin to meditate regularly to allow your subconscious mind to manifest this into reality!

5. Create a List of Your Ideal Partner

Finding Love writing down your ideal mate

Another great tool to attract love is to sit and think about what qualities and attributes you desire in your ideal person. List all the characteristics that you would love to see in him/her. When I created my list years ago, I tried not to dwell too much on specific details. I didn’t want to be closed off to meeting someone who did not fit my list exactly. Instead I focused on words such as mutual attraction, honest, kind, loyal and happy.

Spend some time to review this affirmation list each night before you go to bed. Additionally, allow yourself the opportunity to imagine what it would feel like once the two of you met. Begin to meditate regularly to allow your subconscious mind to manifest this into reality!

6. Just Relax!

Girl Relaxing on kayak in clear blue water

The last thing sometimes feels the hardest!

We often lose hope and ask, why is this taking so long? What if this doesn’t work? What if I’m not meant to find my true love? These are real fears that seem to consume our thoughts and lead us to feeling frustrated and sometimes desperate. Yet interestingly enough, most people who recount their love story, say that it happened when they were least expecting it!

If you are open to love, the universe will align you with the right person at the right time…..you just have to trust the process! So what do you do in the meantime, have fun and enjoy each day!

6. Just Relax!

Girl Relaxing on kayak in clear blue water

The last thing sometimes feels the hardest!

We often lose hope and ask, why is this taking so long? What if this doesn’t work? What if I’m not meant to find my true love? These are real fears that seem to consume our thoughts and lead us to feeling frustrated and sometimes desperate. Yet interestingly enough, most people who recount their love story, say that it happened when they were least expecting it!

If you are open to love, the universe will align you with the right person at the right time…..you just have to trust the process! So what do you do in the meantime, have fun and enjoy each day!

6. Just Relax!

Girl Relaxing on kayak in clear blue water

The last thing sometimes feels the hardest!

We often lose hope and ask, why is this taking so long? What if this doesn’t work? What if I’m not meant to find my true love? These are real fears that seem to consume our thoughts and lead us to feeling frustrated and sometimes desperate. Yet interestingly enough, most people who recount their love story, say that it happened when they were least expecting it!

If you are open to love, the universe will align you with the right person at the right time…..you just have to trust the process! So what do you do in the meantime, have fun and enjoy each day!

How I Found my Soul Mate

heart shaped hands of man and woman in love

As a young girl, I remember writing these little notes with all things I wished for and tucking them under my mattress. At the time, they were nothing more than wishful thinking. I don’t know where I learned this, but over the years these notes continued… 

When I started dating, my relationships seemed to follow a pattern. They would initially start out great and then they would fizzle after a few months. I began to worry! Was I ever going to enjoy a long term relationship? This fear constantly led to desperation. During my next few relationships I was trying so too hard to please, that I literally drove guys away! When my last boyfriend broke up with me for being too nice, I decided it was time for a change.

I shifted my attention to my studies at UCLA and meeting new friends. When a job opportunity came up for me to work on the weekends, I grabbed it. I must have worked there for few weeks, when one Saturday one of their workers stopped by to pick up his check. I remember there was an instant click, but continued about my work. He ended up staying there for a few hours!

On our first date, we seemed to lose track of time. Needless to say, within a month, we became inseparable! We ended up getting married a year later and have been together now for 25 years! Ironically, it wasn’t until my parents sold their house, that they discovered all those little notes I had written years before. While going through them, one caught me by surprise! My ideal boyfriend turned out to be an exact description of my husband

Her Story

Red Headed Girl walking on Bridge

Many years ago while working at a real estate office, I met an amazing co-worker. She was a fiery red head, smart and sweet with great energy. Needless to say we clicked right away. One day she confided in me that she was unhappy in her current relationship. Although her boyfriend took her for granted, she felt she couldn’t get someone better. As an exercise, I asked her to write down what her ideal boyfriend would be like. She paused for a moment and came up with a short list. I said now read it every night before you go to bed!

A few months later she got the courage to end that relationship. Quite honestly, I forgot about our little note, but she didn’t!  She made it a priority to read it each night. One day, she rushed over to share with me that she had met a guy! She wasn’t too sure about him since he was completely different from her last boyfriend, but I encouraged her to go on one date and see.

That same year our office got relocated and we parted ways. We lost touch for about a year and half, until I received a call from her one day. She was inviting me to her Wedding! They ended up getting married and I was there to witness her special day!

His Story

Weights at gym

This story involves a trainer at my gym. He is a divorced dad with two kids who always seemed to have a smile on his face. Last summer he mentioned to me that he would love to have a solid relationship. He was dating here and there but could not find that special person.

I created a short Affirmation List for him to read each night…

“I am grateful to the Universe for attracting the right woman into my life, who is honest, sincere, loyal, peaceful, happy, and prosperous. We are irresistibly attracted to each other. There is mutual love, freedom and respect. The deeper wisdom of my subconscious mind is now bringing us both together in Divine Order

A few months later, I noticed he was spending a lot of time with a female trainer at our gym. She was not someone new and had actually been working there for years. What I didn’t know is that she recently finalized her divorce after a few years of separation. I guess the timing was right for both of them! On Valentine’s Day, after 4 months of dating, he showed her something he had been keeping in his wallet. It was the Affirmation note that he had been reading for months! They have been together now for 2 years and he recently confessed that he has found the love of his life. This story proved to me that you can still find love a second time around, even in your late 40’s!

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